first, let me say that i respect people that can think, especially scientifically. i'm a tech fan, i'd be a fool to not say thinkers are gods. everyone should think outside the box, explore and live without bounds.
but - and, you had to know there would be a but...
what is up with people thinking TOO much?
a lifelong friend of mine recently told me of an idea he had: he has reason to go to a different city fairly often for business, and in great 'outside the box' thinking, he was going to secure an apartment there at his own expense to impress his boss and have the ability to interact more with those in the other city. i offered to contact someone i knew there to see about getting him a deal on a short term apartment lease. --this turned into a 2 month long saga of going back and forth over his concerns that my friend's business partners may want more from him than he can provide ethically in return. my response was simple... just convey to him and subsequently them that you were limited in what you could provide, but you would love any help no matter how small, and look at it as a chance to continue his never ending networking.
he couldn't let it go - he couldn't just make the call and say that it wasn't likely that he would be able to do much with his contacts, but if he could help him in any way it would be great. he continued to say over and over that he wasn't willing to risk them wanting something, i kept saying that was FINE, just tell them that, be open and honest... but he kept obsessing about it.
finally, i just said, "dude, you're holding up progress" and i refused to talk to him about it anymore. so, he went out on his own, and found an apartment at full price. in the end, he ended up in a building my other friend was affiliated with.
so now, he asked me to go with him and help him move ONE piece of furniture for this short term move... and this would have involved 8 hours of driving by myself. uh, no...
so, i called my other friend and asked him to help move this futon, in the end, the other friend found out where the move-in was taking place and has now injected his helping efforts in.
this could have happened 2 months ago, if my local friend had just not over thought the whole thing. now he's getting the help he wanted by fate, by luck. and the ironic thing is that he is in the business of economic development... on some level, it leaves me worried how many over-thinkers are holding back our economic recovery.
this is not the first time i've come across this in life, its just happening more and more as we all age, and subsequently, i'm more and more annoyed. every time there's a new social media or event, i have to listen to everyone's panic over security and their inflated self-worth. ugh.
here's an idea - everyone be honest, and dont be stupid. dont make promises you can't keep, and dont publicly give out your banking information... after that, how big an impact can life really have on you? are you really that special that you're going to be the rare anomaly that takes a hit because you didn't over think something?
think about this the next time you're waiting in line at the airport for some stanky TSA agent to rub his hands all over your crotch... there are millions of flights worldwide every year, but because people over think things, grandmothers are getting felt up so you can be sure you won't be that 0.000001% of people who are hurt by terrorists. way to go people.
PS - the odds were better that you'd be killed on your drive home from work than a terrorist attack, and that's by pre-9/11 stats when we all lived 'unsafe'.
but - and, you had to know there would be a but...
what is up with people thinking TOO much?
a lifelong friend of mine recently told me of an idea he had: he has reason to go to a different city fairly often for business, and in great 'outside the box' thinking, he was going to secure an apartment there at his own expense to impress his boss and have the ability to interact more with those in the other city. i offered to contact someone i knew there to see about getting him a deal on a short term apartment lease. --this turned into a 2 month long saga of going back and forth over his concerns that my friend's business partners may want more from him than he can provide ethically in return. my response was simple... just convey to him and subsequently them that you were limited in what you could provide, but you would love any help no matter how small, and look at it as a chance to continue his never ending networking.
he couldn't let it go - he couldn't just make the call and say that it wasn't likely that he would be able to do much with his contacts, but if he could help him in any way it would be great. he continued to say over and over that he wasn't willing to risk them wanting something, i kept saying that was FINE, just tell them that, be open and honest... but he kept obsessing about it.
finally, i just said, "dude, you're holding up progress" and i refused to talk to him about it anymore. so, he went out on his own, and found an apartment at full price. in the end, he ended up in a building my other friend was affiliated with.
so now, he asked me to go with him and help him move ONE piece of furniture for this short term move... and this would have involved 8 hours of driving by myself. uh, no...
so, i called my other friend and asked him to help move this futon, in the end, the other friend found out where the move-in was taking place and has now injected his helping efforts in.
this could have happened 2 months ago, if my local friend had just not over thought the whole thing. now he's getting the help he wanted by fate, by luck. and the ironic thing is that he is in the business of economic development... on some level, it leaves me worried how many over-thinkers are holding back our economic recovery.
this is not the first time i've come across this in life, its just happening more and more as we all age, and subsequently, i'm more and more annoyed. every time there's a new social media or event, i have to listen to everyone's panic over security and their inflated self-worth. ugh.
here's an idea - everyone be honest, and dont be stupid. dont make promises you can't keep, and dont publicly give out your banking information... after that, how big an impact can life really have on you? are you really that special that you're going to be the rare anomaly that takes a hit because you didn't over think something?
think about this the next time you're waiting in line at the airport for some stanky TSA agent to rub his hands all over your crotch... there are millions of flights worldwide every year, but because people over think things, grandmothers are getting felt up so you can be sure you won't be that 0.000001% of people who are hurt by terrorists. way to go people.
PS - the odds were better that you'd be killed on your drive home from work than a terrorist attack, and that's by pre-9/11 stats when we all lived 'unsafe'.
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