i love being wrong

in the last few years, i have watched people bury themselves being right... so much that it's really starting to strike me as a problem.  i'm wondering if it's something treatable, or just a sign of age.  and worse, they aren't being right about a big issue of ethics or politics, but personal issues that no one else really cares about, yet, they push forward so much that it's impacting their lives and they are oblivious.

well, maybe they aren't oblivious, but they can't change - and thats why i wonder if its an issue that could be treated.  then again, if they don't care enough to recognize and address it, is it a problem?  they're all adults and they can do whatever they want, right?

one is a guy who recently divorced, who with his behavior has managed to render himself basically friendless.  he obsesses with his appearance to the world, and making sure he has the best.  he thinks he's just taking care of himself and his kids, but in the end he's just acting in ways that people can't understand - and his reactions to being questioned cause everyone to back away.  it didn't help when he decided to make a habit out of dating people who should be on the 'no-fly' list... exgf's and ex-wives of close friends, or attempts to date family members of friends who have clearly stated their lack of interest because of his other actions.  in the end, it's a problem that just continues itself, and he can't be talked to.

another is a guy who was actually involved in someone's death, managed to bury it, and has also managed to render himself friendless.  there are plenty of people who are dying to be around this guy and let him believe what he wants for what he can provide... but today, he came up with someone who knows him much better than i, and her face went from happy to blank... i asked, "is the problem drugs or psychological?"  and she just replied, "yes".  being surrounded by 'yes' people, this problem may never be questioned.

a third is a guy who i don't talk to anymore, but who keeps coming up more and more as the holiday season causes me to see more people... and each person questions me about him, spouting their opinions as i eagerly work to drop the topic.  and in the end, each person is talking about their issues with him - at one point a conversation almost started with an accusation that i stopped talking to him because he's gay... an accusation which i find offensive - but somewhat ironic since the reason i stopped talking to him is because he was constantly accusing me of being the reason people think he's gay.  gay or not, he wants people to believe he isn't, and he wants to believe that he's not the slightest bit responsible for the rumors.  it couldn't possibly be any fault of his own, and the topic angers him, so i am yet one of many who have reason to avoid him... which is sad since we were at one point very close.

the last on my mind is a person i know who's family seems to spend a great amount of time with me talking about her issues in how they handles their life.  zero commitment, and an inability to stick to anything - which i don't have a problem with, but i can understand why people would question things.  this is one of many issues people have, small ones, that point to a larger problem of just not wanting to deal with life - but wanting to appear like she's so busy doing everything.  in the end, their world has been filled with people who have to be concerned about their jobs if this person is not happy, or a family who's afraid to tell them how they feel because this person may make holidays dramatic.  oh - thats the best part, this person loves to go on and on about how much they hate drama, but they are the primary source of it for many, awesome.

SO - what the hell is wrong with people that you can't just sit them down and say how you feel anymore?  i love that my friends can tell me when i'm making an ass of myself, or when i'm a problem, or when i'm a mess, and at least make me admit that i know i'm doing something wrong.

when we were young, we had to learn by people telling us where we made our mistakes - now, it seems that some people won't listen...

have you ever wondered why there are people who get older and just decide they can't be talked to?  NOW - i'm not saying that i'm right... but the evidence kinda speaks for itself... everyone else can't be wrong in the world, right?  tell me netizens, how do you talk to someone who's right?